The LDS Daily WOOL© Archive - Friendship 

"Friendship is an extremely important part of your life. Someone has said a true friend is someone who makes it easier to live the gospel of Jesus Christ."—Elder Malcolm S. Jeppsen, Who Is A True Friend?, General Conference, April 1990 

"It takes courage to be a real friend. Some of us endanger the valued classification of friend because of our unwillingness to be one under all circumstances. Fear can deprive us of friendship. Some of us identify our closest friends as those with the courage to remain and share themselves with us under all circumstances. A friend is a person who will suggest and render the best for us regardless of the immediate consequences. Sir Winston Churchill became Great Britain's greatest friend in his country's darkest hour because he was courageous enough to call for 'blood, toil, tears, and sweat' when some would have accepted him more readily as a friend had he advocated peaceful surrender."—Elder Marvin J. Ashton, What Is A Friend?, General Conference, October 1972 

"One can fellowship and friendship others—indeed we must—without taking out a membership in the country club at Sodom."Elder Neal A. Maxwell, Wherefore Ye Must Press Forward, p.76 

"True friendship may well be the best thing that we can do to help reach those who may be drifting toward unsafe and morally damaging activities and counterfeit forms of belonging."—Elder M. Russell Ballard, Standing for Truth and Right, General Conference, October 1997 

"Friendship is one of the grand fundamental principles of 'Mormonism'; [it is designed] to revolutionize and civilize the world, and cause wars and contentions to cease and men to become friends and brothers."—"The Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith" page 316 

"Who is the enemy of mankind? He who wishes to change truth for error and light for darkness; he who wishes to take peace from a family, city, state or nation and give the sword in return. He is my enemy, he is your enemy and the enemy of mankind. Who is the friend of mankind? He who makes peace between those who are at enmity, who brings together those who, perhaps, through some misunderstanding, have been at variance with and lost friendship and fellowship for each other, and shows them that their ill-will is without foundation and existed simply because they did not understand each other." — "Discourses of Brigham Young", p.71

"Among life's sweetest blessings is fellowship with men and women whose ideals and aspirations are high and noble. Next to a sense of kinship with God come the helpfulness, encouragement, and inspiration of friends. Friendship is a sacred possession. As air, water, and sunshine to flowers, trees, and verdure, so smiles, sympathy, and love of friends to the daily life of man! 'To live, laugh, love one's friends, and be loved by them is to bask in the sunshine of life.'" — David O. McKay, "Gospel Ideals", p.253

"The fellowship of true friends who can hear you out, share your joys, help carry your burdens, and correctly counsel you is priceless. For one who has been in the prison of depression, the words of the Prophet Joseph Smith have special meaning: 'How sweet the voice of a friend is; one token of friendship from any source whatever awakens and calls into action every sympathetic feeling' (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p. 134)." — "Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson", p.273-274

"Some of us are not the good brothers and sisters we should be in those circumstances when a friend is being criticized. Our conduct must rise above the morality of the chicken coop in which, once a chicken is wounded, all the other chickens peck away at its bloody head. If only we could simply remember that while we need to deal frankly with mistakes (our own and those of others) when people have erred, they need us more than ever. We can offer support without approving of the error." — Neal A. Maxwell, "Wherefore Ye Must Press Forward", p.93

"In giving our service to others, we need to remember President Hinckley's counsel to extend the hand of fellowship and to share our love with the hundreds of thousands who join the Church as converts each year. The greatest tool the Lord has to welcome new converts warmly and 'keep them in the right way' is the love each of us extends by taking the time to introduce ourselves to new members, learning their names, listening to them, and learning something about them." — Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin, "The Time to Prepare", General Conference, April 1998

"I would add a suggestion for avoiding undue temptation. Young men and women, not yet ready for marriage, should be friends with many others, but they should not engage in courting. Immaturity makes them susceptible to temptation. We want them to grow up clean, with a life plan for missions, then wholesome courting and eternal marriage in the holy temple. It is timing that is vital. The sexual relationship that is wrong before marriage is right, and beautiful as part of the union encouraged by God. Friendship, not courtship, should be the relationship of teenagers." — "The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball", p.288

"The friends we choose to associate with are main contributing factors in the formation of our character. We form social habits by association with our friends. These habits can be useful when directed towards the formation of a wholesome personality." — L. Tom Perry, "Good Friends," "New Era," Feb. 1993, p. 4

"Friends help to determine your future. You will tend to be like them and to be found where they choose to go. Remember, the path we follow in this life leads to the path we follow in the next." — Thomas S. Monson, "In Harm's Way," "Ensign," May 1998, p. 47

"Like so much of what is worthwhile in life, our needs for friendship are often best met in the home. If our children feel friendship within the family, with each other, and with parents, they will not be desperate for acceptance outside the family. I think one of life's most satisfying accomplishments for my wife and me is to have lived long enough to see our children become good friends. It's definitely a miracle that those in our family who in younger years occasionally threatened one another with serious bodily harm now seek out and genuinely enjoy each other's friendship. Similarly, I think no finer compliment can be paid to parents than to have children say that their parents are among their best friends." — Marlin K. Jensen, "Friendship: A Gospel Principle," "Ensign," May 1999, p. 64

"We need a more peaceful world, growing out of more peaceful families and neighborhoods and communities. To secure and cultivate such peace, 'we must love others, even our enemies as well as our friends.' The world needs the gospel of Jesus Christ. Those who are filled with the love of Christ do not seek to force others to do better; they inspire others to do better, indeed inspire them to the pursuit of God. We need to extend the hand of friendship. We need to be kinder, more gentle, more forgiving, and slower to anger. We need to love one another with the pure love of Christ. May this be our course and our desire." — Howard W. Hunter, "A More Excellent Way," "Ensign," May 1992, p. 63

"The Prophet Joseph Smith taught that 'friendship is one of the grand fundamental principles of Mormonism.' (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, sel. Joseph Fielding Smith (1976), 316.) That thought ought to inspire and motivate all of us because I feel that friendship is a fundamental need of our world. I think in all of us there is a profound longing for friendship, a deep yearning for the satisfaction and security that close and lasting relationships can give. Perhaps one reason the scriptures make little specific mention of the principle of friendship is because it should be manifest quite naturally as we live the gospel. In fact, if the consummate Christian attribute of charity has a first cousin, it is friendship. To paraphrase the Apostle Paul slightly, friendship 'suffereth long, and is kind; [friendship] envieth not;  seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;  [friendship] never faileth.' (1 Cor. 13:4-8.)" - Marlin K. Jensen, "Friendship: A Gospel Principle," Ensign (CR), May 1999, p.64

"The First Epistle of John tells us that if we do not have good relationships with our neighbors, whom we have seen, we cannot rightfully claim to love God, whom we have not seen. (1 Jn. 4:20.)

"Do we take time occasionally to read the Sermon on the Mount? It refers largely to our relationships with one another. Let me mention just a few of its principles." - Mark E. Petersen, "Do Unto Others...," Ensign (CR), May 1977, p.73

"We pray to our Father in Heaven in the name of Jesus Christ. Jesus is the great Mediator. Though omnipotent and omniscient, all-powerful and all-knowing, He is our friend. After counseling early Brethren of the Church to 'set in order your own house,' He said, 'I will call you friends, for you are my friends' (D&C 93:43, 45). With all of His greatness, He has said that He is our friend. We have been asked to be a friend to our neighbors and to teach them the gospel, and to be a friend to new converts, that the fruit of our labors may remain (see John 15:16). Our prophet has asked us to be a friend. Can our prophet expect anything less?" - Robert D. Hales, "In Remembrance of Jesus," Ensign (CR), November 1997, p.24

"A powerful idea with immediate practical application is the reality that we can pray to our Heavenly Father, and he will hear our prayers and help us in the way that is best for us. Most of us have experienced the terrible empty feeling that comes from being separated from those who love us. If we remember that we can pray and be heard and helped, we can always withstand that feeling of emptiness. We can always be in touch with a powerful friend who loves us and helps us, in his own time and in his own way." - Dallin H. Oaks, "
Powerful Ideas," Ensign (CR), November 1995, p.25

“A friend is a priceless possession because a true friend is one who is willing to take us the way we are but is able to leave us better than he found us. We are poor when we lose friends, because generally they are willing to reprove, admonish, love, encourage, and guide for our best good. A friend lifts the heavy heart, says the encouraging word, and assists in supplying our daily needs. As friends, we make ourselves available without delay to those who need us.” - Marvin J. Ashton, “Ye Are My Friends,” p. 27

"Do we feel about friendship as the Prophet Joseph did? Do we turn our good feelings into practical assistance? God knows the needs of His children, and He often works through us, prompting us to help one another. When we act on such promptings, we tread on holy ground, for we are allowed the opportunity to serve as an agent of God in answering a prayer." - Kathleen H. Hughes, "What Greater Goodness Can We Know: Christlike Friends," Ensign (CR), April 2005

Our challenge is to choose the right, to declare that we are friends of our Heavenly Father. The covenant that we made through baptism is a contract to become a friend of God. - Charles Didier, "Friend or Foe," Ensign (CR) November 1983

The Saints of God have always been under covenant to nourish each other spiritually, especially those tender in the gospel. We are blessed to live in a time when a great increase in that capacity to nourish new members of the Church must and therefore will be poured out upon the faithful Saints. That power has been given before among the Lord’s people. - Henry B. Eyring, “Feed My Lambs,” Ensign (CR) November 1997

Heavenly Father has given us a priceless gift in our capacity to communicate with each other. Our communications are at the core of our relationships with others. If we are to return home safely to Heavenly Father, we must develop righteous relationships with His children here in mortality. - L. Lionel Kendrick, “Christlike Communications,” Ensign (CR) November 1988

One who really understands and practices empathy doesn’t solve another’s problems, doesn’t argue, doesn’t top his story, make accusations, or take away free agency. He merely helps the person build his self-reliance and self-image so he can try to find his own solutions. -
Marvin J. Ashton, “Give with Wisdom That They May Receive with Dignity,” Ensign (CR) October 1981

If you want to stay close to someone who has been dear to you, but from whom you are separated, you know how to do it. You would find a way to speak to them, you would listen to them, and you would discover ways to do things for each other. The more often that happened, the longer it went on, the deeper would be the bond of affection. If much time passed without the speaking, the listening, and the doing, the bond would weaken.

God is perfect and omnipotent, and you and I are mortal. But he is our Father, he loves us, and he offers the same opportunity to draw closer to him as would a loving friend. And you will do it in much the same way: speaking, listening, and doing. -
Henry B. Eyring, “To Draw Closer to God,” Ensign (CR) April 1991

Cultivate good friends who do not try to make you choose between their ways and the Lord's ways. Be the kind of friend who makes it easier for others to obey the commandments when they are with you. -
Robert D. Hales, “If Thou Wilt Enter into Life, Keep the Commandments,” Ensign (CR), May 1996, p.35 

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